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I read an article in The Huffington Post by Tracy McMillan entitled Why You’re Not Married. It’s directed at women and outlines some reasons such as You’re A Bitch (so angry you scare men off) and You’re A Liar (pursuing men who say they don’t want to get married and pretending you’re ok with that).
She is saying that your choices dictate what will happen in your life. A simple concept which, to me, sounds a lot like the idea of free will that I’m continually espousing. Which is why I agree with her.
Tracy’s article is a perfect example of Saturn in Libra. Saturn (judgment and responsibilities) is retrograding through Libra (the sign of relationships). Retrograding means going backwards so it’s a good time to look back at the choices you’ve made in relationships. It’s time to (yuck) take responsibility for what’s happened. If that sounds unfair then think of it this way: you can’t control the actions of other people so you may as well take control of your own actions.
I agree and I am all for taking responsability.
But can you deny that some people get more chances to solve their anger issues in a timely manner – like before they are 95 and can’t even see their potential husband/ wife? Do you think that a person with NN and stellium in 7th house is meant to have the same chances as one with stellium in 12th house?
Do you think someone who has an active Saturn in 7th house who desires a fun and loving partnership will get it? All the ladies I know with Capricorn on the 7th cusp carry their families, in other words they have taken responsability. But they have also abandoned the joy of being courted, in a proper manner the joy of being weak and vulnerable and not pretending to be a rock all the time, the joy of being childish and immature.
I believe in building chances too, but I also know first hand that we don’t all belong at the same table. There is still a cruel and harsh reality that should not be denied.
@elise:
I’ll answer your questions one at a time.
Do some people get more chances to solve their anger issues in a timely manner: since all the information a person needs to recognize their issues is present in their chart from the day they are born, I would say we all have the same time frame to work with. However, some people are more self aware, prepared to do the work, etc., so they are able to start working on their issues sooner.
NN & stellium in 7th House vs. stellium in the 12th House: some people do have more issues to resolve regarding relationships then others. It’s true. So some people have more work to do in this area but I do believe that they would have the same opportunities to work on their issues as the 7th House stellium person.
Saturn in the 7th:yes, I do beleive if someone truly desires a fun and loving partnership they can have this. Even with Saturn in the 7th. They might have to work harder to find this then someone with Sagittarius in the 7th but I honestly believe it is doable. It does seem as if the scales are weighted more in favour of certain people when it comes to relationships though. Rather then seeing this as unfair I think it just means that the area of relationships is not where they need to focus (they may have some gritty family or career or health issues instead).
The “You’re a Bitch” line gave me a laugh.
I was on a second date a few years back with a woman who I knew was about have the annual (January) consult with her fave astrologer. She asked me, out of the blue, where I was born. I told her. Then she asked on what day. I replied that I don’t tell people my birthday, I’m not into that whole birth celebration thing. That’s true, but I also didn’t want to give her the info because I knew she was going to do the birth chart bit on me with the astrologer. I had another date with the gal, but the birth chart intent was the deal breaker for me. I wasn’t going to hitch my wagon to someone who would base her decisions on a birth chart reading.
I suppose my position is counter to your practice, Nadia, but I thought I’d add another reason why people don’t, shouldn’t get married.
Good post.
Thanks..
Actually I agree with your position. My boyfriend and I went out on quite a few dates before I found out his birth info but even before I looked at his chart I was fairly certain things would work out. And honestly, if I had seen something objectionable in his chart I wouldn’t have cared. 3 years later we’re still humming along.