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On the eve of the Full Moon in Leo (tonight at 11:38 PM EST) I had a conversation about people who erode your sense of fabulousness. They don’t appreciate you. And you feel this, every time you talk to them. If you love them, it really hurts. They may not be conscious of what they’re doing; some people just don’t resonate with your flame. They look at you, without a trace of nastiness, and think “That’s it?” They do not see you. These are the ones that hurt the most.
That’s one of this Moon’s themes. Remember, it features a painful inconjunct to Chiron (the wound that never heals) in Pisces. Full Moons are about endings, so this Moon seems tailor made to address this issue; setting your intention to pull back from people who don’t appreciate you. This doesn’t have to be extreme. It could be as simple as limiting the amount of time you talk with them.
Leo is about more than just fab hair; it’s about the feedback you get from others, the applause and the hugs and the warm words that make you glow. Because it’s great to be self-sufficient and know that you’re all that. But sometimes it’s nice to have someone else confirm it. Life is too short to give your energy to those who steal your glow.
I am so very much getting that message at the moment with the Uranus (opposite) Pluto (square) squares hitting my Venus. I’d rather be lonely alone. Thanks for the pep talk.
You’re welcome.
oh nadia, i just love your posts. this one is so warm-hearted and insightful. thank you.
Thank you for the wonderful comment.
“This couldn’t have been more clear if you would’ve given me a direct reading. The Full Moon is conjunt my NN-8 degrees in my 11th & I’m living this!!!
Thanks again for the advice!!!”
Thankyou so much for this article, very apt at the moment…just the reminder I need right now;)
I am feeling it.
Thank you Nadia, so uplifting after what has been a difficult week dealing with exactly what you are writing about. You help me to believe in my ‘glow’ again. It seems there are so many ‘flame thieves’ out there and since I have my moon in 12th house I do find emotional boundaries difficult :- self-blame, martyr complex…..to name a few. Thank you for highlighting this issue that often slips under the radar of my everyday focus.
Anytime. This is the main reason I practice astrology
I emailed my mom this simple line last night, “You were cruel and abusive when I was a child, I must have been mad to believe you had changed.” Coincidence? I think not.
This is what I love about astrology.
Full Moons can be illuminating…
I had what I thought was a friend and we didn’t speak for several months until she reached out and sent me a Christmas card in 2011. We re-activated our friendship as both of us were experiencing similar challenges both personal and professional. I took more risks than she and am the happier person. At the moment, things are in transition for me and stagnant for her. Recently, she has not contacted me (we now live on opposite coasts) for unnecessary reasons but it tells me, “Fool me once, shame on her; Fool me twice, shame on me”. Yesterday, I made the decision to let this so called friendship go. I will be plesant should she call, but it’s an individual I can do without. The moon was in my 9th house Leo where it keeps company with my natal moon, mars and pluto. This decision was mature and without sentiment. I was smart.
Excellent…glad you feel good about your choice.
Yes, very familiar with that one, too. My mother, first and foremost, is an example in my life for that lack of acknowledgement, or whatever one may call it. Unfortunately, this must have created the basis for a pattern that is really! time to get rid off, you are so very right, Nadja
Glad it resonated with you.
Thanks, Nadia! I love the positive and proactive spin you put on even the most difficult of subjects.
You’re welcome!
@ tiabiamama and mia,
I had a mother like yours and to make matters worse she was a very young widow who never grew up and decided that I was going to be her benefactor for the rest of her life. All the while she was emotionally and physically abuseive to me.This started in full force when I was 13. She died when I was 24. I did not and do not miss her.
Great positive post there nadia…love the ‘people who erode your sense of fabulousness’ and ‘Leo is about more than just fab hair; it’s about the feedback you get from others, the applause and the hugs and the warm words that make you glow. ”
yes, some people you just need to back off from because they are either too needy to give you the love – and sometimes one just has to teach another about how to ‘elevate’ each other and be assertive when one is not being visible in a relationship. I am grateful to a friend of mine who pointed this out to me. Had I not gone through one of those painful ‘we gotta talk’ talks with her, I would have wound up with countless painful friendships that went south due to my inability to allow someone else to shine and dazzle for a change.
there is a good book i read when i was learning how to be a better salesman called ‘Mr. Schmooze’. While the author was kind of laying it on thick about how to make people feel good, the idea was driven home; If one practices conscious ‘elevation’ when dealing with others – the kind compliments, the noticed details about someone, about treating people a little bit better than what they are accustomed to – they are going to not only go out of their way to help you back, but you spread your influence in countless, beautiful ways. It grows exponentially.
Yep. You get back what you give. Absolutely.
This full moon was on my IC at 8 ° 11′ perfectly timed as an ending. We are looking for a nursing home for my father as he needs care 24/7. I was the advance party and had done most of the groundwork and daily assuring that all was ok and my siblings arrived for the week-end. I knew the time would be difficult as we all live in different countries and had either left home at the earliest opportunity or been kicked out or not allowed to return. Mother is dead and Father’s personality has altered since the stroke so he is not the problem, he is helpless, loving and grateful, but the original draconian regime has left us desperate for validation. I was told by an astrologer I would get nothing from my brother and sister, but I guess I just kept hoping for respect and appreciation. (Mercury conjunct IC and Sun conjunct Pluto all in Leo in the 4th house) I also have Mercury square Saturn so there is a fear of speaking out and a tendency to keep quiet and withdraw. It doesn’t have to be extreme but it is important to honour yourself and withdraw from those who erode that validation. Thanks Nadia for putting it into perspective. “They look at you, without a trace of nastiness, and think “That’s it?” They do not see you. These are the ones that hurt the most. ” Perhaps another lesson in boundaries and the problem of wishful thinking….
You’re welcome. Pluto in the 4th usually suggests support from family is an issue (certain needs not being met).
Thank you, Nadia, for your wise perspective! The older I get, the more I realize that I can never know or control how other people are going to perceive me. There have been people who on the surface seem so different from me, but “get” me right away, and then there are those who have been around me for years who seem to have me confused with someone else. There are peole who can only see the surface, because they lack depth perception, and those who can’t see beyond themselves at all because they are wrapped in a myopic miasma of their own misery (my late father was one of these). I feel outrageously fortunate to have found my husband, who sees what is precious in me even when I can’t see it myself. Maybe it is just because I am a fiercely independent Capricorn Sun/Aries Moon, but I would rather have one person who truely sees me than superficial approval from everyone else in the world.
You’re welcome. You are fortunate to have found someone like your husband.
Cap Sun is also only focused on what has value, hence your appreciation of your husband. Capricorn and Aries have no patience for time wasters.