What does a woman sacrifice when she becomes a mom? Judging by some of the blogs I've been reading....everything....or nothing. There's a schizophrenic split between the ideal of rose tinted motherhood and the gray prison of losing your independence. And you know, there's some astrological stuff going on that reflects this. Pluto (transformation) is moving through Capricorn (patriarchy, tradition). Capricorn's opposite sign is Cancer (motherhood). Capricorn's ruler, Saturn, is moving through Libra (relationships). Ok, great. But what do these transits look like in real life?
This article in Salon.com is about the latest obsession with Mormon housewife blogs. These are stay at home mothers in the most traditional sense of the word (Capricorn, Cancer). Young, ambitious, career driven women are apparently hooked on these blogs. But it's not just voyeuristic fascination. These independent ladies are jealous of what they're reading in spite of their acknowledgment that the Mormon blogs are surely too good to be true.
Mormons? Really? I checked some of these blogs out and I have to say that, sugar shock aside, the picture they paint is kind of addictive. Glowing women with grinning husbands and plump babies write about how fabulous their lives are without a hint of irony. This is Saturn in Libra (traditional relationships) writ large. Nat The Fat Rat and C Jane Enjoy It are good examples. And these blogs have a lot of followers. It seems that women still want to be seduced by the idea of the secure family unit.
On the other side of the equation, there is this article which is the warning of a stay at home mom who gave up her career as a journalist to have kids. Now she is divorced, broke and bitter. Sounds like a Pluto in Capricorn scenario to me: waking up to the frightening (Pluto) reality (Capricorn) of giving away her power (Pluto again).
So what does it all mean? I think the Saturn/Pluto transits are changing our ideas of the power balance in relationships. I find both sides of the debate (typical Libra...swinging back and forth) have merit.
Have you changed your views on career vs. family recently?