I wrote an article on romantic deceivers, and it generated an interesting question from a reader. What makes someone use their natal aspects in a certain way? What creates a manipulator instead of an honest person? Victim, or bully? Slacker, or CEO?
Everything in astrology can go both ways. Some people with natal Pluto opposite Mars will become victims, and others, victimizers. A third group of Pluto opposite Mars folks will find the transformative energy and create something exceptional.
Every chart has potential. Astrology can tell you what that potential is, but it cannot tell you how that potential will be used. This is why I ask my clients to tell me what's happening in their lives, so I can see how they're using that potential. It's where theory and real life intersect. In the end, free will reigns supreme. You have a choice (always, always) about how you use what you've been given.
Although your entire chart is a mass of potential, aspects between the big guys (Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, Pluto) and personal planets (for example, Jupiter square Venus) are key places to look for strong energies. Are you using them, or are they using you?
Jupiter aspects: you can go too far/be self-righteous or teach others/spread your optimism.
Saturn aspects: you can be depressed/give up/live in fear or work hard/focus/create something that lasts.
Uranus aspects: you can give everyone the finger/put your safety in jeopardy or be a trailblazer/do something of social significance.
Neptune aspects: you can escape/deceive/be a martyr or heal/forgive/create something beautiful.
Pluto aspects: you can obsess/plot revenge/manipulate or transform/be authentic/lead others.
Very generally, here's a couple of points on making the most of what you've got:
- Own your issues: if you don't acknowledge your anger/power/sadness, others will throw it back at you (in twisted ways). You can't get away from what you have, so you might as well make it work for you.
- Find a healthy outlet: there's always a positive expression for the energies in your chart. Find it, use it.