I read an article in The Huffington Post by Tracy McMillan entitled Why You're Not Married. It's directed at women and outlines some reasons such as You're A Bitch (so angry you scare men off) and You're A Liar (pursuing men who say they don't want to get married and pretending you're ok with that).
She is saying that your choices dictate what will happen in your life. A simple concept which, to me, sounds a lot like the idea of free will that I'm continually espousing. Which is why I agree with her.
Tracy's article is a perfect example of Saturn in Libra. Saturn (judgment and responsibilities) is retrograding through Libra (the sign of relationships). Retrograding means going backwards so it's a good time to look back at the choices you've made in relationships. It's time to (yuck) take responsibility for what's happened. If that sounds unfair then think of it this way: you can't control the actions of other people so you may as well take control of your own actions.